Are you a person who had your life all planned out? Who your Prince Charming would be, what castle you would live in, and how many perfect children you would have? Well, you're not alone! How many of s do live in a dream world of fantasy and don't take the time to live in the real world?
If you're living the Cinderella Fantasy, you are probably upset and depressed about your daily life and circumstances. Are you saying "Oh, my husband doesn't pay enough attention to me, nobody appreciates me, nobody will listen to what I think, and I want them to do things the way I want it done". You know, so many women live sad and unfulfilled lives because their focus is in self-fulfillment through the behavior of others. If people in their lives upset things, "Cinderella" is totally devastated and unable to function. When this happens, she focuses all the blame on other people like: "Oh, I had a bad childhood, or I am unhappy in my job, or my husband doesn't appreciate me or I don't like the things that go on at church". But the real problems lie in our own distorted view of life because we don't know how to live in the "real" world. It's so much easier to put the blame on everyone else because face it, "I'm Cinderella" and it couldn't possibly be me. Cinderella needs to quit blaming the "Wicked Step-mother" and face the fact that only she can find happiness for herself!
Cinderella needs to quit living in fantasyland and live in the moment. She needs to quit bringing up the past by saying "If I only did this, or I didn't do that, I would be happy". NOT Wake-up Cinderella,YOU CAN'T CHANGE THE PAST! But you can live in today and create a better past for the future.
One way to start is to appreciate the good things in your life today, and realize that everyone in your family or life is an individual with different habits and needs. Instead of being critical, learn to like their unique personality. If your husband isn't giving you the attention you want, quit focusing on your needs and focus on acknowledging the good in him. If you quit focusing on "me" all the time and focus on the needs of those around you, they will see you differently and you will start to grow an inner happiness for yourself. You've heard the expression "give until it hurts"? Well, I say "give until your heart is full of joy"!
One of the reasons I am writing on this topic is I have been a "Cinderella" for way too long and with the study of God's word I've realized that all the sadness and frustration of my past was because I didn't see things for what they really were, I lived in a fantasy world of expectations. Finding my way out of this thinking has helped me put the past completely behind me and to be happy in the present. I choose to stop chasing the "fantasy" and enjoy my life today and the people in it for who they are. No more trying to change people, no more judging other's lives. I choose to put my faith in God, living and loving everyone I come in contact with and I MEAN EVERYONE! God puts opportunities in our lives and it is up to us to take them or let them pass by. I choose to embrace every opportunity to share God's love and commitment to us.
Well, enough on that subject, I hope this article helps you examine yourself and your way of thinking. I am using every opportunity to learn and grow as a better person as I hope you will join me on this journey. Don't waste another day, live and be happy in the small things not fantasies. Be thankful for everything and remember to treat others the way you want to be treated. There will never be any regrets in that!
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