Mistakes, do you know anyone who hasn't made mistakes? I don't. Some people seem like they naturally have a sixth sense about decision making and things seem to work out just fine for them. But on the other hand some people have a tendency to end up making wrong choices and suffer many consequences because of them. As I think back about some of the worst decisions I made that blew-up in my face I recall having a gut feeling at that particular time that told me "Don't Do It!" My selfish side overrode and I did it anyway. Now, as I look back if I had used that gut feeling and resisted my selfish impulses I would have come through life so much smoother. As a christian that gut feeling is the Holy Spirit helping my direction and if I had only been smart enough to heed the warning I could have eliminated so many wrong choices.
It's time to change the poor decisions that many of us women make, but we don't have to be haunted by our past mistakes we can use them to grow into a woman with confidence. Using that gut feeling overriding our own self-destruction and lack of confidence and pursuing common sense will help us as women to grow spiritually and confidently.
Women lacking confidence have a tendency to go along with others not expressing their own wants and desires, they tend to be people-pleasers. They live in the past spending quality time with unproductive thinking and self-sabotaging. They deprive themselves of having a happy quality and fulfilling life that they want and deserve. If you lack confidence you may very well be involved in a relationship that is toxic to your well-being. Low confidence causes women to choose men who are not right for them usually someone with problems of their own that pour over into her quality of life. Sometimes a man who is verbally, physically or mentally abusive. Someone who reminds her that she is nothing, of no value, convincing her that no one else would want her and because her confidence is so low, she believes everything he has to say. He sometimes will isolate her from friends and family making her feel guilty if he is not her only interest. There are many other scenerios but you get the gist of what I'm talking about.
What I'm saying is you are worth it! You are wonderful, special and you deserve to have happiness in your life and even if you feel you are at your lowest point, you can get your strength and confidence back. The first thing you need to do is make some decisions about your current circumstances. Pray for God's guidance. He will rescue you if you want Him to. But be patient, things don't always work out right away.
If your lack of confidence is rooted from something else, then you need to face up to it. A woman building her confidence has to realize that she is loved by God and many others in her life. Just because you don't feel loved doesn't mean that you're not. Think about the ones who really care and are concerned for you. They are the ones who love you. A woman with confidence needs to quit thinking negatively and have a positive attitude. Don't play pitty party, think about all the good in your life and all the positive things that have happened to you. Growing confidence in yourself won't allow you to beat yourself up emotionally either. When negativity comes your way, just refuse to fall into the trap. Mentally say, "I'm not falling for it." A confident woman smiles and shows she is very approachable. She considers the feelings of others and does nice things for them without demeaning herself. This woman stands up for herself and others, she not only doesn't allow bulling towards herself but she protects her children and others who are weak. A woman with confidence does not feel intimidated by others. She knows who she is and what she wants to do. She doesn't need to compare herself to others she appreciates her own talents and gifts. Her age, weight, looks doesn't matter. She can stand on her own two feet and does not have the fear of being alone. Her confidence is not defined by the man she is with. She can be a great mate and mother without losing herself.
Remember that we do teach people how to treat us. Even though we subconciously don't realize that we are saying "go ahead and mistreat me I deserve it, I'm nothing." Unless we become confident through God and his love for us we will continually create environments that are hostile to our well-being.
Use the Word of God as your text book in becoming confident. When you read about how much He loves you and wants you to be happy you won't want to put your bible down. You'll see that women are very special and God used them to fulfill his purpose. He wants you to be respected and you should never look down on yourself. Confidence doesn't get built overnight but if you're patient and work with Him little by little you will see positive results. Grow each day nurturing yourself in His Word you will be amazed at where your life will go if you seek God's will. His will is for you to be confident and loved. Your confidence will flow into the lives of others as your love will also. Use your confidence to serve God and He will use your life in wonderful ways.
Ephesians 3: 11, 12 . . .11 according to the eternal purpose which He accomplished in Christ Jesus our Lord, 12 in whom we have boldness and access with confidence through faith in Him. NKJV
He gives us access to Him because we are important in His eyes. And access to Him shows us His love.
Put your faith in the Lord, He has confidence in you. Create the life you want by believing that it is possible. Prepare yourself for your new thinking and new way of life and enjoy the real you! Confidently!!!!
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