What is it about Americans? Why do we get so caught up in all the stuff? We don't realize it but the stuff can be our own worst enemy. America was founded on having freedom of speech, freedom to worship, freedom to bear arms and freedom to make a living. But, are we free? We may have taken freedom to a far extreme level, so far, that we really don't have freedom anymore. Are we really free?
Since we have been allowed to make our own rules, I sometimes feel that we as Americans feel entitled to everything. We feel because we have a job, we should reward ourselves with a new house, new car, boat, pool, vacation so that means we have to go into debt for them. With that, the company cuts your hours or you get laid-off so your income drops, budget's getting tight, and now the kids need clothes or money for something, and stress is setting in. Now you're hearing your company may be closing and going to Mexico, "Oh my, what am I going to do?" Is this the American Freedom our ancestors fought for? Hardly, I think our forefathers would roll- over in their graves if they could see what a mockery we have made of our constitution and our freedoms.
We should be making sure that our constitution is not "tainted". We should fight to keep our religious freedoms and not allow them to be slowly taken away from us. We should be a loving country with God as our foundation as our Original American Hero's intended! We should help each other, be kind and considerate because of all God's blessings that have been bestowed on this country. He was our original foundation and He must stay our foundation if this country is going to continue to prosper!
You may disagree with me, and that's ok, but I believe the United States of America has been so successful thus far because of our firm foundation and beliefs in God. And, I believe that if we allow this country to erase God from it's foundation, I see disaster emerging from all around! Things will get bad. I don't want to see that as I am sure you don't either. I want my children and grand-children to know this country the way I did. And be PROUD of our Godly roots!
We, as a Christian Nation, need to stand-up and be strong! Supporting our nation as Christians. And we as individuals need to teach our children that we haven't been the best examples by buying too many luxury items on credit. Trying to impress our neighbors is not the way to go. Many families around the world would love to sit their families down to just "one" American meal. Instead of watching their sweet little children waste away from hunger. We are such a wasteful society, me included. Let's try to make improvements in our lives in a positive way. We can start making small changes in our families today. Get some good books at your local library on American History and use them to teach your kids what a wonderful country we have and don't want to change. There are so many exciting adventures in our American History that it can be an exciting adventure! I can say that because I am a History buff and collector of American History. I am proud to be a Christian American! Help your kids understand that we need to keep this great country great. Stress the importance of supporting the troops in any way you can because our future partially lies in their hands. You know, everyone loves using the internet. Have your children do some research on their American Heritage and give a report to the family on what they have found. Make a family scrapbook about your research, take an American History vacation and learn about this great country. When I was a teenager, mom and dad informed my sister Terri and I that instead of going to the ocean for a vacation, we were going to Gettysburg, PA. We both protested, whined around, complained because we wanted to lay-out on the beach. But, thankfully, dad was the boss and we went. It was the most exciting experience I had ever had on a vacation. I was addicted to American History and the Civil War and still am to this day! Oh, and guess what, we stayed at a campground that had a pool so we got the best of both worlds! I credit my better understanding of what America is because my parents cared enough about us girls to want to expose us to what this country is all about. We later visited Washington D.C. and many other historical sites as my husband and I took our children to experience this great American that we live in. The Smithsonian is a breath-taking experience. Talk about a high! American History gives me a proud rush of what this country is all about.
We need to quit thinking about all the stuff and ourselves and start thinking about what we can do to help others. You know the bible says . . . it is more blessed to give than to receive. Do you believe that? I do. I am at my most happiest when I'm not thinking about myself, but others. How about you? Are you happy with all the stuff? Debt, high expectations? Probably not.
One of my favorite things to do is SMILE. I find a big smile breaks down barriers. People tend to open up to you and are more trusting of you when you smile. A smile doesn't cost a thing and it definitely makes you feel better. Evaluate the stuff, does it make you happy? Evaluate a smile, kindness, concern, love, patience, gentleness, friendship, does that make you happy? It does me and it doesn't cost a thing! The bible is right in the Love Chapter. I Corinthians 13, read it. This is a gift to you from God to help you find your happiness. You can find happiness without all the stuff. Your life will be more fulfilling and successful than you could ever imagine and by living according to "The Love Chapter" (I Corinthians 13), our country will change for the good! Love does conquer all, and with love to all, God Will Bless America!
Let me hear your thoughts on this subject whether you agree with me or not. I welcome your comments. Have a great day and SMILE!
Thursday, April 28, 2011
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
Are You Living With Passion?
Meaningless work is exhausting! Are you just going through the motions day end and day out? Do you wake up every morning hating going to a not so exciting job?
Do you have passion? To have passion means to risk, dream, live with enthusiasm, and feel uplifted. Do you fall into this category? We only get one chance to live on this earth and the window of life is very small. Are you going to waste your short time miserable?
You have abilities that God has instilled in you that no one else has. There is no one else quite like you so go ahead, pat yourself on the back, You're Special! If you are special then why are you wasting all your precious talents? I bet you have many talents you don't even know you have. Have you ever thought about that? Sometimes we don't find out our talents until we try doing something we love.
You know, God blessed us with passion, talent and drive but sometimes we get caught up in life and forget about passion. God created us to enjoy our lives and I know He feels sad when He watches us waste our lives away not doing anything special with our gifts.
If you don't have any idea what some of your talents are, ask someone around you. People in your life can probably help you with your perspective.
I know I had a very special friend named Tina in college who showed me how to cut items from wood with a jigsaw and her encouragement and drive inspired me to design my own line and show my work nationally. Who would have known? This can be inspiration to you that you can start very small and with proper vision, support and lots of dreaming and planning you can be able to accomplish anything!
You know, you don't have to quit your job and take a complete risk, but you can try something in your spare time. A great way to get vision and I find this helpful in my own life is to bounce ideas off of a friend or family member who you know will give you an honest opinion. Sometimes they can help you go in a totally different direction that is even better than what you had originally considered. My adult children and I do this often, the brain-storming helps give confidence. My daughters have not been afraid to try business on their own and do not look at anything as an obstacle. That makes me feel successful as a mother that I instilled challenge and passion in them. My daughter Taisha and I are currently working on a wonderful brainstorm and project that will make her be more successful, fulfilling, and allow her more time to be the mother she so desires to be.
If you have friends that you hang out with, get a group together and brainstorm. Get real with each other and discuss what is good in your life and what you don't like about your life. Talk about your dreams and desires, get input and then make a plan. Don't feel foolish. Most of our famous forefathers of inventions had so-called "outrageous ideas", but ended up in our history books as contributors to inventions that changed the world. Maybe getting a group together periodically could help give you the confidence you need to proceed with your dreams. Maybe you could get some of your friends involved in a new adventure with you.. It's always great to have people you care about around when you work! And remember to have fun. I remember when I worked for Longaberger as many of my facebook friends remember what Dave Longaberger's moto was for his employees. He said we should have 25% of our day as fun. And you know, we lived it! Most of the employees loved working for him. We built relationships with co-workers, production was high and quality was top-notch. I left the factory everyday worn out but feeling good and fulfilled inside.
Are you having 25% fun in your day? If not, try it and if you're not able to do it, maybe you're not in the job you need to be in. If you're a boss I challenge you to allow your employees to have some fun. Productivity will go through the roof and quality will improve. Oh and don't forget, happy employees. With life being so difficult with gas prices, soaring food prices and just everything in general costing more, something has got to change or everyone is going to be dealing with the consequences of stress. And that is no fun!!!!
Find your niche'. Don't be afraid to move forward and take the challenge. You deserve to get out of bed in the morning with a smile knowing that you are living YOUR dream and not someone else's.
And don't forget to teach your children and grand-children about passion and drive. In this society of electronic media, everything is right in front of us, already done. No one has passion to create or think anymore or even communicate face to face. When my son was 2 years old and my daughters we're helping me sand wood and stain for my business, I gave him a hammer, I put nails in it and let him drive the nails in the board. He loved it and thought he was such a big boy. He felt satisfaction in his work. Something simple as that can teach kids how to be productive. What do you do and what can you do to challenge your family? Do it! You will do them a big favor and will improve the way you feel about your relationship with them. Time spent involving them will send your relationship with them to a new level. Live Strong, Be Happy and Fulfilled!
Do you have passion? To have passion means to risk, dream, live with enthusiasm, and feel uplifted. Do you fall into this category? We only get one chance to live on this earth and the window of life is very small. Are you going to waste your short time miserable?
You have abilities that God has instilled in you that no one else has. There is no one else quite like you so go ahead, pat yourself on the back, You're Special! If you are special then why are you wasting all your precious talents? I bet you have many talents you don't even know you have. Have you ever thought about that? Sometimes we don't find out our talents until we try doing something we love.
You know, God blessed us with passion, talent and drive but sometimes we get caught up in life and forget about passion. God created us to enjoy our lives and I know He feels sad when He watches us waste our lives away not doing anything special with our gifts.
If you don't have any idea what some of your talents are, ask someone around you. People in your life can probably help you with your perspective.
I know I had a very special friend named Tina in college who showed me how to cut items from wood with a jigsaw and her encouragement and drive inspired me to design my own line and show my work nationally. Who would have known? This can be inspiration to you that you can start very small and with proper vision, support and lots of dreaming and planning you can be able to accomplish anything!
You know, you don't have to quit your job and take a complete risk, but you can try something in your spare time. A great way to get vision and I find this helpful in my own life is to bounce ideas off of a friend or family member who you know will give you an honest opinion. Sometimes they can help you go in a totally different direction that is even better than what you had originally considered. My adult children and I do this often, the brain-storming helps give confidence. My daughters have not been afraid to try business on their own and do not look at anything as an obstacle. That makes me feel successful as a mother that I instilled challenge and passion in them. My daughter Taisha and I are currently working on a wonderful brainstorm and project that will make her be more successful, fulfilling, and allow her more time to be the mother she so desires to be.
If you have friends that you hang out with, get a group together and brainstorm. Get real with each other and discuss what is good in your life and what you don't like about your life. Talk about your dreams and desires, get input and then make a plan. Don't feel foolish. Most of our famous forefathers of inventions had so-called "outrageous ideas", but ended up in our history books as contributors to inventions that changed the world. Maybe getting a group together periodically could help give you the confidence you need to proceed with your dreams. Maybe you could get some of your friends involved in a new adventure with you.. It's always great to have people you care about around when you work! And remember to have fun. I remember when I worked for Longaberger as many of my facebook friends remember what Dave Longaberger's moto was for his employees. He said we should have 25% of our day as fun. And you know, we lived it! Most of the employees loved working for him. We built relationships with co-workers, production was high and quality was top-notch. I left the factory everyday worn out but feeling good and fulfilled inside.
Are you having 25% fun in your day? If not, try it and if you're not able to do it, maybe you're not in the job you need to be in. If you're a boss I challenge you to allow your employees to have some fun. Productivity will go through the roof and quality will improve. Oh and don't forget, happy employees. With life being so difficult with gas prices, soaring food prices and just everything in general costing more, something has got to change or everyone is going to be dealing with the consequences of stress. And that is no fun!!!!
Find your niche'. Don't be afraid to move forward and take the challenge. You deserve to get out of bed in the morning with a smile knowing that you are living YOUR dream and not someone else's.
And don't forget to teach your children and grand-children about passion and drive. In this society of electronic media, everything is right in front of us, already done. No one has passion to create or think anymore or even communicate face to face. When my son was 2 years old and my daughters we're helping me sand wood and stain for my business, I gave him a hammer, I put nails in it and let him drive the nails in the board. He loved it and thought he was such a big boy. He felt satisfaction in his work. Something simple as that can teach kids how to be productive. What do you do and what can you do to challenge your family? Do it! You will do them a big favor and will improve the way you feel about your relationship with them. Time spent involving them will send your relationship with them to a new level. Live Strong, Be Happy and Fulfilled!
Monday, April 25, 2011
Dare To Do What You Love!
Are you doing what you want to do with your life? Are you happy in your position at work? Are you doing the job that fulfills your PASSION? Or, are you working your job because the pay is good and it's nice to have the extra money? Sometimes we do the job we have just because we need a job to support our families and we don't have a choice in the moment.
What is your passion? There is nothing more energizing in life than to be doing what you love! Sometimes we find ourselves stuck in a job that we absolutely hate. We feel worn out, discouraged, regretful, short-tempered, depressed and empty. Money is such a motivator in our society today and we become slaves to it. We feel that we have to be and look successful with our homes, cars, boats, pools, and vacations, but at the end of the day, after getting everything we thought we wanted, for some reason, we're not satisfied.
Take some time out and evaluate your current situation. Does all the stuff make you and your family happy? It didn't me! The big income and all the stuff just trapped me more in my life. I felt like I had to work even harder (and working on piece rate tends to make you work faster and harder and makes you greedy for more). I was required to weave 17 baskets a day, but I thought 80 sounded better. I worked my body into the ground and for what? MONEY! And now, I pay the price physically every day with pain, stiffness and only a fraction of use of my hands as before. If I could only go back and live a more fulfilling life! Something that I could say made a difference in the world. Oh, I'm sure many people are enjoying their baskets, but it's just STUFF. Don't get me wrong, I enjoyed the challenge of the job and the people, but I was too dedicated to the big paychecks.
If I could do it over, I would have spent more time and energy on my family and my church and quit focusing on ME. When I am on my death bed, I want to be happy with the choices I made in my life with the short time I was given on this earth. I can't change my past, but I sure can change the future! Like I said previously, I now live a simple life with not much money, but God seems to supply all my needs and adventures. I find myself content with what I do. I never thought I could be content without all the stuff, I have also been able to be ok with being alone. Now, if a gentleman comes into my life, I'll be able to like him for who he is and not because I need someone (and that sure feels good)!
Getting back to doing what you love. Don't wait for something bad to happen in your life before you get your wake-up call. Think about what you would really love to do and start making plans to move in that direction. You know, nothing is impossible! We usually defeat ourselves out of fear, but I challenge you to turn your back on your fears, step forward and DREAM! Live your dreams and your desires. YOU CAN DO ANYTHING YOU PUT YOUR MIND AND ACTIONS INTO! Don't even consider failure. Start telling yourself that you are going to live with passionate expectations and that something good is going to happen to you! You can do it, I'm cheering you on! Be happy and fulfilled in your life and your possibilities will be endless. Start Now!
Live Life With Passionate Expectations!!!!!!!!! Let me know how things are going!
What is your passion? There is nothing more energizing in life than to be doing what you love! Sometimes we find ourselves stuck in a job that we absolutely hate. We feel worn out, discouraged, regretful, short-tempered, depressed and empty. Money is such a motivator in our society today and we become slaves to it. We feel that we have to be and look successful with our homes, cars, boats, pools, and vacations, but at the end of the day, after getting everything we thought we wanted, for some reason, we're not satisfied.
Take some time out and evaluate your current situation. Does all the stuff make you and your family happy? It didn't me! The big income and all the stuff just trapped me more in my life. I felt like I had to work even harder (and working on piece rate tends to make you work faster and harder and makes you greedy for more). I was required to weave 17 baskets a day, but I thought 80 sounded better. I worked my body into the ground and for what? MONEY! And now, I pay the price physically every day with pain, stiffness and only a fraction of use of my hands as before. If I could only go back and live a more fulfilling life! Something that I could say made a difference in the world. Oh, I'm sure many people are enjoying their baskets, but it's just STUFF. Don't get me wrong, I enjoyed the challenge of the job and the people, but I was too dedicated to the big paychecks.
If I could do it over, I would have spent more time and energy on my family and my church and quit focusing on ME. When I am on my death bed, I want to be happy with the choices I made in my life with the short time I was given on this earth. I can't change my past, but I sure can change the future! Like I said previously, I now live a simple life with not much money, but God seems to supply all my needs and adventures. I find myself content with what I do. I never thought I could be content without all the stuff, I have also been able to be ok with being alone. Now, if a gentleman comes into my life, I'll be able to like him for who he is and not because I need someone (and that sure feels good)!
Getting back to doing what you love. Don't wait for something bad to happen in your life before you get your wake-up call. Think about what you would really love to do and start making plans to move in that direction. You know, nothing is impossible! We usually defeat ourselves out of fear, but I challenge you to turn your back on your fears, step forward and DREAM! Live your dreams and your desires. YOU CAN DO ANYTHING YOU PUT YOUR MIND AND ACTIONS INTO! Don't even consider failure. Start telling yourself that you are going to live with passionate expectations and that something good is going to happen to you! You can do it, I'm cheering you on! Be happy and fulfilled in your life and your possibilities will be endless. Start Now!
Live Life With Passionate Expectations!!!!!!!!! Let me know how things are going!
Tuesday, April 19, 2011
What Is The Cross To You?
I Cor 1:18 . . . For the message of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God.
During this Easter season have you thought about what the cross means to you personally? Does it have any meaning whatsoever in your life? What is so important about the cross and the resurrection?
Did you realize that if Jesus had not come to earth, lived, died and resurrected no one would have the opportunity to have eternal life?
Romans 6:1-10 says . . .1 What shall we say then? "Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound? 2 Certainly not! How shall we who died to sin live any longer in it? 3 Or do you not know that as many of us as were baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into His death? 4 Therefore we were "buried with Him through baptism into death, that just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life. 5 For if we have been united together in the likeness of His death, certainly we also shall be in the likeness of His resurrection. 6 knowing this, that our old man was crucified with Him, that the body of sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves of sin. 7 For he who has died has been freed from sin. 8 Now if we died with Christ, we believe that we shall also live with Him. 9 knowing that Christ, having been raised from the dead, dies no more, Death no longer has dominion over Him. 10 For the death that He died, He died to sin once and for all; but the life that He lives, He lives to God. NKJV
I think Romans 6 sums it up. Christ became our sin so through obedience we can become dead to sin by His wonderful sacrafice. We now, because of the cross have free will to accept the message of the cross or consider it foolishness, the choice is up to each of us as individuals. I pray that you accept the message of the cross and honor it with our life. Share it with others.
God's Plan can be our plan of receiving the inheritance set aside for us through Jesus Christ:
Hear - Romans 10:17
Believe - John 3:16, 8:24
Repent of our sins (turn away from) - Acts 17:30
Confess Christ - Matthew 10:32
Be Baptized for the forgiveness of sins -Acts 2:38, 22:16
Be Faithful - James 1:12, Revelations 2:10
If you can take about an hour out of your schedule and read chapters 12-20 of John for the historical event leading up to the possibility of everlasting life. Remember this is the year 2011 which is a fact of 2,011 years after the death of Christ. If that isn't historical proof of the facts, then I don't know what is. Consider all the facts and open up happier opportunities in your life. Consider the cross and the suffering that Christ made on our behalf. He wants YOU to become part of His Kingdom! Don't miss out on this wonderful opportunity.
During this Easter season have you thought about what the cross means to you personally? Does it have any meaning whatsoever in your life? What is so important about the cross and the resurrection?
Did you realize that if Jesus had not come to earth, lived, died and resurrected no one would have the opportunity to have eternal life?
Romans 6:1-10 says . . .1 What shall we say then? "Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound? 2 Certainly not! How shall we who died to sin live any longer in it? 3 Or do you not know that as many of us as were baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into His death? 4 Therefore we were "buried with Him through baptism into death, that just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life. 5 For if we have been united together in the likeness of His death, certainly we also shall be in the likeness of His resurrection. 6 knowing this, that our old man was crucified with Him, that the body of sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves of sin. 7 For he who has died has been freed from sin. 8 Now if we died with Christ, we believe that we shall also live with Him. 9 knowing that Christ, having been raised from the dead, dies no more, Death no longer has dominion over Him. 10 For the death that He died, He died to sin once and for all; but the life that He lives, He lives to God. NKJV
I think Romans 6 sums it up. Christ became our sin so through obedience we can become dead to sin by His wonderful sacrafice. We now, because of the cross have free will to accept the message of the cross or consider it foolishness, the choice is up to each of us as individuals. I pray that you accept the message of the cross and honor it with our life. Share it with others.
God's Plan can be our plan of receiving the inheritance set aside for us through Jesus Christ:
Hear - Romans 10:17
Believe - John 3:16, 8:24
Repent of our sins (turn away from) - Acts 17:30
Confess Christ - Matthew 10:32
Be Baptized for the forgiveness of sins -Acts 2:38, 22:16
Be Faithful - James 1:12, Revelations 2:10
If you can take about an hour out of your schedule and read chapters 12-20 of John for the historical event leading up to the possibility of everlasting life. Remember this is the year 2011 which is a fact of 2,011 years after the death of Christ. If that isn't historical proof of the facts, then I don't know what is. Consider all the facts and open up happier opportunities in your life. Consider the cross and the suffering that Christ made on our behalf. He wants YOU to become part of His Kingdom! Don't miss out on this wonderful opportunity.
REMEMBER
My writings today are going to be direct quotes from Romans 12:9-21. This is quoted from The New Testament, Nelson's Bible New King James Version NKJV. As I did my morning bible study I ran across my hand-writing above these verses that said REMEMBER. I want to share them with you. As a christian which means "little christ"the books of Romans - Jude (21 books) show christians how to live. This needs to be a way of life. As you read them, think about God's commandment to "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Think about these scriptures throughout your day and try to "REMEMBER" their importance!
Romans 12:9-21. . .9 Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil. Cling to what is good. 10 Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another; 11 not lagging in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord; 12 rejoicing in hope, patient in tribulation, continuing steadfastly in prayer; 13 distributing to the needs of the saints, given to hospitality, 14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. 15 Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. 16 Be of the same mind toward one another. Do not set your mind on high things, but associate with the humble. Do not be wise in your own opinion. 17 Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men. 18 If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men. 19 Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, "Vengenance is Mine, I will repay," says the Lord. 20 Therefore "If your enemy is hungry, feed him; If he is thirsty, give him a drink; For in so doing you will heap coals of fire on his head."
You know if you are someone who has been wronged in the past, these scriptures can give you comfort. If you will read, re-read, and research these scriptures, and live according, think about how much easier it will be to put the past behind you and by taking the advice of Romans 12: 9-21 and trying to live by them, you WILL be a happier person because you are not thinking about yourself but others. I hope this gives you comfort as it has me. If you are looking for a place to start reading about your christian life, Romans can give you great insight into your future of dealing with life day to day. People suffer from day to day problems and a few minutes a day of reading can bring so much comfort and puts your mind in the place it should be.
I hope you find comfort in these scriptures and have peace in your life.
Romans 12:9-21. . .9 Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil. Cling to what is good. 10 Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love, in honor giving preference to one another; 11 not lagging in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord; 12 rejoicing in hope, patient in tribulation, continuing steadfastly in prayer; 13 distributing to the needs of the saints, given to hospitality, 14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. 15 Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. 16 Be of the same mind toward one another. Do not set your mind on high things, but associate with the humble. Do not be wise in your own opinion. 17 Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men. 18 If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men. 19 Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, "Vengenance is Mine, I will repay," says the Lord. 20 Therefore "If your enemy is hungry, feed him; If he is thirsty, give him a drink; For in so doing you will heap coals of fire on his head."
You know if you are someone who has been wronged in the past, these scriptures can give you comfort. If you will read, re-read, and research these scriptures, and live according, think about how much easier it will be to put the past behind you and by taking the advice of Romans 12: 9-21 and trying to live by them, you WILL be a happier person because you are not thinking about yourself but others. I hope this gives you comfort as it has me. If you are looking for a place to start reading about your christian life, Romans can give you great insight into your future of dealing with life day to day. People suffer from day to day problems and a few minutes a day of reading can bring so much comfort and puts your mind in the place it should be.
I hope you find comfort in these scriptures and have peace in your life.
Friday, April 8, 2011
Our Children's Success Is Our Success!
Are you at peace with who you are? When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Who do you see? Are you happy with the way you look? Who you've become?
With our society today and the way women are expected to meet a certain criteria to be acceptable, we find many women insecure with themselves. I would venture to say that over 80% of girls and women don't like themselves. If you're not stick skinny with large breasts, you are "nothing". You just exist (blending in with everyone else) of not much value because of all your flaws. It is such a shame that it has come to this because we have a large group of sad women who are not feeling very good about who they are. And flipping the other side of the coin you have the "perfect looking" women who are miserable. They are constantly starving themselves, anorexic, bulemic, or popping some kind of diet pill so they won't want to eat. And of course, surgeries are necessary. Perfect breasts, hips, nose, and legs don't usually come naturally so surgery is a necessity.
How did it ever come to this? You find old men dating young girls and middle age women with not too many options. When is our society going to get back to reality? If we keep going down the path we are currently on, I don't think life is going to be much fun for anyone.
We need to teach our little girls how important they are while they are little (and little boys too). Teach them that "looking perfect" isn't achievable and it's ok to be who you are. Fathers need to quit being afraid to love their daughters. Holding, kissing, hugging and saying that their daughters are beautiful. We need to re-instate a Father and daughter's love. You see so many young girls dating old men and why would that be? Are they physically attracted to them? Probably not. Or could it be that they are looking for a father figure to love them? (but they confuse sex with love) They look for someone who is financially stable so they can feel safe and safe is where they should have been in their father's arms as a child.
You know were not going to be able to change the past as far as raising our children are concerned, but young families can start now and learn how to be affectionate with both boys and girls in the family. We need a lot of loving going on in our families today!
I understand the fears of child abuse and being afraid to touch, but it is easily identifiable the difference. I don't know about you, but I have always loved on my children and grand-children and everyone else's kids. I find it becomes infectious, the kids open up and tell me all types of things. They feel safe and secure with me and feel worthy of being cared about. They feel worthy of love. It pleases me when I hear the kids running towards me yelling my name and smiling because they know that I genuinely care about their lives and who they are only in a good way.
Let's try to change this scarey world of "no touch" "no compassion" and let's work on raising a new generation of safe and secure children. If you will have a new outlook and show love to the children, we may be able to help kids realize that they are important and that they are "perfect" in the shape, size, or disability they are.
God commands us to love one another as we love ourselves. But first, we need to learn to love ourselves better then pass it on to the children. Remember the bible story about Jesus saying to allow the children to come to Him? Why? He wanted to show them His love and their importance. Children didn't have a great importance in that day, but Jesus took time out of His busy schedule to spend some time with them. Matthew 19:l4,15 says. . .But Jesus said, "Let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them; for of such is the kingdom of heaven." And He laid His hands on them and departed from there. NKJV
Let's take some time from our busy schedules. Turn off the computers, TV's, or whatever distractions you may have. Talk to and listen to what your children have to say. Quit yelling! Hold them in your arms, kiss on them, tell them how much you love them and that you are proud of who they are! I guarantee you, and I mean guarantee that if you are willing to do this, you will start to see a positive change in their lives. Don't forget to keep it up! Once is not going to be enough! It's going to be a new way of life. Maybe we're not so happy with who we see in the mirror because we aren't secure in our lives, bu we can help our children succeed in being secure in their future. And as they grow, you will feel security from them to you. If you're like me, their success is my success, and our success is God's success. Raise your kids in a loving christian home and it will be one christian family closer to a better world!
With our society today and the way women are expected to meet a certain criteria to be acceptable, we find many women insecure with themselves. I would venture to say that over 80% of girls and women don't like themselves. If you're not stick skinny with large breasts, you are "nothing". You just exist (blending in with everyone else) of not much value because of all your flaws. It is such a shame that it has come to this because we have a large group of sad women who are not feeling very good about who they are. And flipping the other side of the coin you have the "perfect looking" women who are miserable. They are constantly starving themselves, anorexic, bulemic, or popping some kind of diet pill so they won't want to eat. And of course, surgeries are necessary. Perfect breasts, hips, nose, and legs don't usually come naturally so surgery is a necessity.
How did it ever come to this? You find old men dating young girls and middle age women with not too many options. When is our society going to get back to reality? If we keep going down the path we are currently on, I don't think life is going to be much fun for anyone.
We need to teach our little girls how important they are while they are little (and little boys too). Teach them that "looking perfect" isn't achievable and it's ok to be who you are. Fathers need to quit being afraid to love their daughters. Holding, kissing, hugging and saying that their daughters are beautiful. We need to re-instate a Father and daughter's love. You see so many young girls dating old men and why would that be? Are they physically attracted to them? Probably not. Or could it be that they are looking for a father figure to love them? (but they confuse sex with love) They look for someone who is financially stable so they can feel safe and safe is where they should have been in their father's arms as a child.
You know were not going to be able to change the past as far as raising our children are concerned, but young families can start now and learn how to be affectionate with both boys and girls in the family. We need a lot of loving going on in our families today!
I understand the fears of child abuse and being afraid to touch, but it is easily identifiable the difference. I don't know about you, but I have always loved on my children and grand-children and everyone else's kids. I find it becomes infectious, the kids open up and tell me all types of things. They feel safe and secure with me and feel worthy of being cared about. They feel worthy of love. It pleases me when I hear the kids running towards me yelling my name and smiling because they know that I genuinely care about their lives and who they are only in a good way.
Let's try to change this scarey world of "no touch" "no compassion" and let's work on raising a new generation of safe and secure children. If you will have a new outlook and show love to the children, we may be able to help kids realize that they are important and that they are "perfect" in the shape, size, or disability they are.
God commands us to love one another as we love ourselves. But first, we need to learn to love ourselves better then pass it on to the children. Remember the bible story about Jesus saying to allow the children to come to Him? Why? He wanted to show them His love and their importance. Children didn't have a great importance in that day, but Jesus took time out of His busy schedule to spend some time with them. Matthew 19:l4,15 says. . .But Jesus said, "Let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them; for of such is the kingdom of heaven." And He laid His hands on them and departed from there. NKJV
Let's take some time from our busy schedules. Turn off the computers, TV's, or whatever distractions you may have. Talk to and listen to what your children have to say. Quit yelling! Hold them in your arms, kiss on them, tell them how much you love them and that you are proud of who they are! I guarantee you, and I mean guarantee that if you are willing to do this, you will start to see a positive change in their lives. Don't forget to keep it up! Once is not going to be enough! It's going to be a new way of life. Maybe we're not so happy with who we see in the mirror because we aren't secure in our lives, bu we can help our children succeed in being secure in their future. And as they grow, you will feel security from them to you. If you're like me, their success is my success, and our success is God's success. Raise your kids in a loving christian home and it will be one christian family closer to a better world!
Monday, April 4, 2011
Take Your Life Back!
Are you the person who feels like you have to make everyone around you happy? That means your family, friends, coworkers, and acquaintances? Well, you have permission to stop feeling that way! If you continue living a life imprisoned by everyone else's happiness, you're not going to have a chance to live your life with any type of fulfillment.
If you're one of those type people (and I know from personal experience) your emotions are constantly up and down. Your emotions are up when people are happy with your performance, but when you're not pleasing them, your emotions are down because you haven't fulfilled "their happiness". And don't get me wrong, we are to respect people in our lives and listen to their advice; but ultimately, we have to make our own choices.
One way to tell if you are on of those type people is when you neglect yourself (wants and needs) and if you're asked "what do you want to do in your life?" you don't have an answer because you really don't know what you want. When you focus all your time and energy on others you don't know what makes you "happy". In the end you have others running your life and telling you what to do. And by allowing that, people will draw all your time and energy and leave you with nothing. Having "nothing left" is a very sad and depressing place to be.
If you take charge of your life and confront those people in a living way and make it known to them that they have to find their own happiness and you are going to find your own happiness then you will be able to start making positive changes in your life. Your friends and family may be upset with you at first, but they'll get over it and you will be able to start "feeling" again. As long as you aproach everything with love, kindness and respect while being firm, you WILL succeed!
If you're like me and have been one of those people all of your life, it's very hard to change but not impossible! Stay focused on what you want your outcome to be and what you want to do with your life and your desires will help you stay focused.
If you have been focused on trying to fix everything and keep everybody happy, make this a turning point and rid yourself of that false sense of responsibility. There is nothing wrong with contributing to someone's happiness as long as you don't take on the task of making it your responsibility for their happiness. If you rid yourself of this, you will have less stress and you will have more time to fulfill God's plan for your life.
If you're one of those type people (and I know from personal experience) your emotions are constantly up and down. Your emotions are up when people are happy with your performance, but when you're not pleasing them, your emotions are down because you haven't fulfilled "their happiness". And don't get me wrong, we are to respect people in our lives and listen to their advice; but ultimately, we have to make our own choices.
One way to tell if you are on of those type people is when you neglect yourself (wants and needs) and if you're asked "what do you want to do in your life?" you don't have an answer because you really don't know what you want. When you focus all your time and energy on others you don't know what makes you "happy". In the end you have others running your life and telling you what to do. And by allowing that, people will draw all your time and energy and leave you with nothing. Having "nothing left" is a very sad and depressing place to be.
If you take charge of your life and confront those people in a living way and make it known to them that they have to find their own happiness and you are going to find your own happiness then you will be able to start making positive changes in your life. Your friends and family may be upset with you at first, but they'll get over it and you will be able to start "feeling" again. As long as you aproach everything with love, kindness and respect while being firm, you WILL succeed!
If you're like me and have been one of those people all of your life, it's very hard to change but not impossible! Stay focused on what you want your outcome to be and what you want to do with your life and your desires will help you stay focused.
If you have been focused on trying to fix everything and keep everybody happy, make this a turning point and rid yourself of that false sense of responsibility. There is nothing wrong with contributing to someone's happiness as long as you don't take on the task of making it your responsibility for their happiness. If you rid yourself of this, you will have less stress and you will have more time to fulfill God's plan for your life.
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